IN HONOR OF ORGASM MONTH
When you hear people talking about orgasm, you find countless taboos and misconceptions in other people's discourse. Some people believe there are different types of orgasms; others believe that orgasm can only be generated through genital stimulation and that failure to achieve it reflects poor genital stimulation technique; others believe that sexual intercourse without orgasm is not a satisfactory sexual relationship; and others confuse orgasm with ejaculation or squirting.
With all this in mind, we decided to create a list of five interesting facts about orgasms (yes, they're scientifically confirmed) in which we hope to debunk misconceptions and foster curiosity about how the body behaves.
Let's get started:
Orgasm is a psychological experience mediated by the release of several hormones, including oxytocin, adrenaline, estrogen, testosterone, endorphins, dopamine, prolactin, and serotonin. Many people believe that orgasm is purely a physiological experience, but no. The physiological sensations (which vary from person to person depending on their relationship with the aforementioned hormones) are merely a consequence of the simultaneous production of these hormones.
Orgasm, squirt, and ejaculation are different sexual responses ; each is experienced differently, and sometimes one, two, or all of them can occur simultaneously. Orgasm, as previously stated, is a psychological experience mediated by the release of hormones; squirt is the result of the stimulation of glands called skene, along with the imbalance of a hormone called vasopressin. This imbalance occurs at high levels of arousal. Finally, ejaculation is the expulsion of a biological fluid.
Both men and women can develop multi-orgasmic abilities , defined as the ability to achieve multiple orgasms during a single sexual encounter. To achieve this, for people with a vagina, it is recommended that all senses be stimulated after the first orgasm (remember that orgasm does not depend on the genitals). For people with a penis, it is recommended to train themselves to separate orgasm from ejaculation. There is a great book for this latter aspect, called The Multi-Orgasmic Man, which I highly recommend.
Have you heard this phrase: "If a person doesn't have an orgasm, it's because they're not enjoying it"? It's a socially accepted idea, validated, and passed down from generation to generation. According to Masters and Johnson, a sexual relationship goes through several stages: Desire, Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution. Each of these stages has completely different components of enjoyment. However, ignorance and the sexual culture of the past have prevented attention from being focused on appreciating these components of enjoyment, due to the unfounded need for the onset of orgasm. So no, just because an orgasm isn't experienced doesn't mean sexual intercourse is no longer enjoyable.
We all experience orgasm differently, and this basically depends on our relationship with the hormones involved in generating it . For example, let's talk about adrenaline. Someone who skydives every day will have a different relationship with adrenaline than someone who has never done an extreme sport. So, someone who practices extreme sports daily will enjoy sex more in settings where it generates more adrenaline, such as in a public place, while someone who has never done an extreme sport will enjoy it more in private spaces.
Lincy Acosta - Sexologist