Have you ever felt an uncontrollable urge for sex... and other weeks you don't even want to be looked at? Don't worry, you're not broken. You're cyclical.

Your sexual desire (aka libido) is not linear. It is deeply connected to your menstrual cycle and the hormones that govern it. Understanding it not only gives you peace of mind, but also allows you to know yourself better, live your sexuality with more freedom, and even find new forms of pleasure.

Week by week: how your libido moves throughout your cycle

🩸 Menstrual phase (Day 1-5 approx.)

You are menstruating. Estrogen and progesterone levels are at their lowest, so it's normal to feel more introverted, tired, or less interested in sex.
But be careful: for many people, the sensation of blood or natural lubrication can feel very erotic. The key is to listen to yourself without judgment.

💡 Owna Tip: If you feel like it, go for it. Just make sure to use toys and products suitable for those days, such as water-soluble lubricants and cups that don't interrupt the fun (like Beppy Soft Comfort).

💥 Follicular phase (Day 6-13)

The magic begins. Estrogen and testosterone rise, which improves your mood, energy, confidence... and libido.
Your body is preparing to ovulate, and biologically it wants to party. You may feel hotter, more sociable, and eager to explore.

💡 Owna Tip: This is a great time to play with yourself, try new things, or connect with your partner if you have one. Have you met internal vibrators like the DIP internal stimulation vibrator or the Call Me semi-flexible vibrator?

🔥 Ovulation (Day 14 approx.)

The peak. Testosterone is high, estrogen too. You may feel extremely sensual, desirous, and have intense fantasies. The body is ready to "reproduce," but you decide whether to create life or just pleasure.

💡 Owna Tip: Take advantage of this phase to experiment with what excites you most. It's ideal for partner play, more intense sex, or that wow orgasm.

😴 Luteal phase (Day 15-28)

After ovulation, progesterone rises and many people feel a drop in libido. You may feel more sensitive, bloated, or emotional.
But there is also a more intimate type of desire: seeking pleasure as self-care, as a way to connect with your body from a gentle place.

💡 Owna Tip: Not everything has to be fire and madness. Perhaps this is your phase for a warm bath, candles, a gentle vibrator like SUC, and touching yourself without expectations.

So, is it normal for my desire to change?

Yes. It's not just normal, it's natural. Your body moves in cycles, and so does your libido. Some phases turn you on more, others less. None are wrong.

The important thing is not to demand that you feel desire all the time. Rather, start to record how your body moves throughout the month. Keeping a pleasure journal (like menstrual journals but with orgasms) can be revealing.

In summary:

  • Your libido changes with your hormones.

  • There are weeks of fire and others of pause, and both are valid.

  • Pleasure is also experienced in softness, in emotion, in cyclicity.

  • Understanding yourself is empowering yourself.

Do you want to know yourself better and have tools to feel more pleasure throughout your cycle?
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