When we want to start taking responsibility for our own sexuality, we hear many people tell us that the most important thing in this whole process is learning to know our bodies, so with some anxiety and a lot of courage, we decide to start touching our genitals.
As we've already seen in different sections of our blog, orgasm is a psychological experience mediated by the production of different hormones. To produce these hormones, we need to stimulate our senses, not just our genitals. Therefore, when we're told we need to learn to explore our body, they're not just referring to our genitals, but to an entire body eager to be explored.
But of course, sexuality also has great significance within sexual relationships and provides many tools for enjoyment, so it clearly cannot be neglected.
How about we begin a conscious recognition of the female genitals together? Do you agree? If your answer is yes, the first thing you need to do is put yourself in the role of observer. The great describers of natural phenomena, such as Darwin and Newton, first observed the phenomenon to understand it. You can't desire different experiences, such as squirting or ejaculation inhibition, if you aren't first aware of how your body behaves under different stimulations: strength, speed, temperature, etc.
If you have a vagina, you need to hold a mirror up to you and start identifying each of the parts that make up your genitals. If you're a boy, just dedicate yourself to looking (if you're interested in this topic) at the genitals of a girl who gives you consent.
Identify:
Outer labia: Although all women have pubic hair, its color, texture, and amount vary. In general, the labia of the vagina are pale pink, red, brown, or dark brown, depending on skin color; all are fine and normal. The labia in most women can be very irregular in shape, and all shapes and sizes are completely normal. When a woman is aroused, both the inner and outer labia fill with blood and swell, similar to the penis in men. In fact, a woman's outer labia and the glans of the penis are made of the same tissue. Few people know it, but these tissues can be very sensitive if gently caressed during sexual intercourse.
Clitoris: The clitoris is the anatomical equivalent of the tip of the male penis and has just as many nerve endings, although concentrated in a much smaller space. This makes it the most sensitive sexual organ of both sexes. It is also the only organ dedicated exclusively to sexual pleasure. The bare clitoris is extremely delicate, so most women prefer to stimulate it indirectly, either through the surrounding skin, from the side, or through the hood. The clitoris swells during sexual arousal and becomes much more prominent; this is called clitoral erection.
Vagina: The vagina is usually well lubricated thanks to the glands at its entrance (Follow us on social media because we'll talk about this in detail in this week's video). Almost all women constantly experience a clear, whitish, or yellowish vaginal discharge. This is normal and can be considered the vagina's way of cleaning itself.
Perineum: The perineum extends the centimeter or two between the vagina and the anus and is the collection of muscles that form the base of the pelvis and support all the sexual and pelvic organs. This collection of muscles is called the pubococcygeus muscles or pelvic floor muscles. We'll discuss these muscles in detail another time on the blog, as they are essential for making you orgasmic and multi-orgasmic. Sometimes the perineum is very sensitive to touch, so take advantage of it.
Anus: The anus, which has many nerve endings, can be very arousing for some people. Many of the nerves that innervate the vagina also innervate the rectum. Most women prefer to be very aroused before allowing this area to be touched, although some are very sensitive there at all times.
Recognizing female sexual anatomy is important for beginning a responsible approach to sexuality . Here, we'll tell you what you should stimulate and how to do it to generate pleasure while it's happening.
Lincy Acosta - sexologist